The other day, I was sitting over dinner with one of my mentees who just returned from a 2-week vacation in Iceland. He went there because he needed some distance from his daily routine. Already before the trip, he told me that he was not happy in his current situation but could not pinpoint what it was.
Now after the return, he said that he realized that his job was not challenging enough.
I asked him what his plan was to change that.
He was thinking for a minute. Then, he said that he does not know how to change it so he would probably wait for a new challenge to come up.
Over the past years as a mentor, I have encountered many times the same situation: The person is not happy in their current situation but does not know how to change so he or she remains in that unhappy situation for the “right” opportunity and thus does not change it.
But if there is one advice I can give them, then this is it:
Life is too short to wait. Take ownership and create your destiny.
“Waiting” for the perfect moment that something all of a sudden appears that would completely change your life is highly unlikely.
Don’t let someone or something decide over your future. Instead, take it in your own hands by creating opportunities. That does not mean necessarily, leaving everything behind and moving to the other side of the world (like in my case) but subtle changes can make significant impact.
How to change without a drastic life transformation.
You can create opportunities by meeting new people, getting involved in new projects, volunteering or taking a new class. There are so many ways to actively create opportunities without turning your entire life around.
The sense of ownership of our own decision is amazing and often overlooked. The feeling of accomplishment is so much greater when you know that you owned it 100%. But of course, also the other way around, there is no one to blame if things go wrong.
But what is life all about if we are scared of failing and tip toe around risky decisions and keeping life comfortable (and often boring)? (More on this on a next post)
If I am not happy with my situation, I need to accept it or change it. Complaining is no option.
I first ask myself if I am willing to accept it. If the answer is no, then I know what to do. I need to own all my actions to make the change. Because life is so short, why accept unhappiness?
So go out, make the change you need to do and own your life!
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